What should I do ?, very serious topic. Sorry it's so long

[stressedmumto2]

Hi,this is going to be a long post, sorry in advance. I really need some suggestions though.

 

I have a child who is 7 he is dx with ADHD and shows some aspergers characteristics, so far to date it's been concluded that he does not have Aspergers. His behaviour has always been ok at school but nearly every time after a holiday he doesn't want to go back to school and will try to resist going.

 

He is very violent at home and just lately he is exhibiting the same behaviour at school. Reluctance to go in and leave me in the mornings has resulted in him lashing out at staff, using innapropiate language to staff and in front of other children, throwing of furniture (not at anyone but just throwing it about) and spitting. The school have excluede him twice because of this beahviour but I have since asked and told the school that even though it is in the interest of the other children to ensure their safety I feel very much he has learnt that by showing this behaviour I will be asked to collect him, which is ultimatly what he wants. He is very anxious either about being in school or leaving me. Once he has clamed down he will often break down in tears and then be quite calm for the rest of the day. He is on Concerta but the school think I am not giving it to him because of the rages he is going into.

 

On thursday after I left the school he ran out, luckily I was fairly near by 2 roads away but he still got to me before I had left the road. I got him back into school. When I left again later that day I was told that he had run out of school and was very disruptive at one time there was mean to of been 5 memebrs of staff trying to calm him. They have not tried to restrain him as no member of staff know's how to restrain. I have told them that only 1 member or 2 memebers of staff should be with him when he is like this, mostly because he will say things like 3 adults to one child that's stupid, you can't do anything.

 

As you are reading this you will probably be thinking what a little sh*t, I too would think it as an outsider whoknow's nothing about him but he's not,he's very scraed and worried at the moment and I think he feels scared when he's in a rage but doesn't know how to snap out of it.

 

Get back to thursday, he came home form school and told me that the caretaker had grabbed the back of his neck, his clothes and threw him onto the chair in the heads office, there were 2 TA's who witnessed it and the head also one of the reception children. I asked the head what had happened and she said that the care-taker may have grabbed his jumper by accident becausehe was kicking a member of staff and that the incident had been logged.

 

Yseterday my son come home from school and was angry with me because he though I had not said anything to the school, I told him I had and what the head had said and he said she was lying. I then asked him to rein-act it on his sister. I was shocked by what I witnessed. My son was lifted by the back of his t-shirt and jumper about 2 feet of the ground so that his t-shirt was very tight around his neck, he said it hurt, he also told me hicked the care-taker about 5 times in the private part to try and get him to let go off him. He was then thrown onto a chair in the heads room which he fell of and banged his head, he then told me he stayed on the floor crying wanting me to collect him. This was also witnessed by another child and the other child had told his mum that the caretaker had kicked my son and had him by the back, this child is only 4 though but all his mum had asked was did he see my son and who was with my son.

 

On the thursday before I had managed to leave the school my son was spitting and the caretaker commented to him, "do it to me, bet you wont will you, u only do that kind of thing to women do you".

 

I know my son has been so violent to staff but I don't expect them to behave in this way. I have made complaints recently about the deputy for making the comment to my child that he could not be bothered with him no more, he tried to get out of it saying he hadn't but the EWO wasthere when he said it so I did have a witness. I don't know what to do about this incident. I feel I have to protect my son from this sort of thing happening but how do I when the head is also saying that it didn't happen. I know my son isn't lying, he doesn't want the caretaker to get into trouble but said he doesn't want him to ever do that to him again, he's also said he would tell the police exactly what had happened, he would tell anyone because he say's he shouldn't do it shoud he mummy.

 

Where do I go from here ? Any suggestions would be great l

[Emma3]

Hi

I'm sorry your haveing such a bad time. Ifeel they really don't have an idea of how to deal with your son. Violace to counterat violance teachers our children nothing but if I am bigger than you I will get what I want. They really need to find a way to help your son separate more easliy. I know that we had a key worker that would take B from me every morning, she was some one who B trusted. I would like to add B is still difficult in the morning and he to is 9. It sounds to me they are totally mishandeling the situation and really upsetting him. I am as shocked as you are about the care takers behaviour. Iam not as experienced as others hear so maybe some one else can make a suggestion. All I can say is I feel sorry for your son, he is only a child and deserves better. Hugs to you all

Edited February 25, 2006 by Emma3

[oracle]

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Do I think that your son is a little S***? I certainly do not. I think that he is a very unhappy, stressed and anxious young man who only feels comfortable when you are around. That puts a huge amount of stress on you and I am in no way implying that you have to be there for him 24/7. But I do think that he is so confused and stressed out by his life that it is exploding out in his aggressive behaviour. I know that it is hard to keep a lid on our own anger when we are being tested to our limits but if the caretaker did throw your son onto a chair that was totally unacceptable. It is clear that no one in the school is qualified to deal with your son or handle him. I would be requesting and emergency review because clearly the placement is breaking down and it's only a matter of time before it breaks down completely. They are not meeting his needs what ever his dx is and if he does not feel safe then he will kick off more and more.

 

I have no other advice for you. But I do feel for all of you including your son who really does need to be somewhere other than where he is now.

 

<'> Carole

[Elanor]

As you are reading this you will probably be thinking what a little sh*t, I too would think it as an outsider whoknow's nothing about him but he's not,he's very scraed and worried at the moment and I think he feels scared when he's in a rage but doesn't know how to snap out of it.

 

Hi

 

I don't think your son is a s**t - I think the school is. Your son is behaving in a fairly typical way for a child with ASD who is finding school traumatic. He is suffering, and the school seems to treating him as a 'naughty' child, not one with special needs.

 

You need to look at the school's programme of interventions - does your son have any interventions, IEP, Statement? Has he seen an ed Psychologist? He clearly needs a vast amount more help at school than he seems to be getting. It is crystal clear to me that you are not the only one who is stressed!

 

Does he have an ADHD diagnosis - ie explaining the concerta? There are medications to help with aggression in children with AS, but in your case, I'll bet there's a lot that could be done (by the school) before going down that path.

 

As for the caretaker - this is very serious, and I think you should put in a written complaint. Not only is he making intimidating remarks, he's actually used physical measures against your child - a caretaker!!!!! I'm horrified on your behalf.

 

Your son's behaviour is perfectly common in over-stressed children with Aspergers - you're not going to shock the parents here with your son's violence - the shock is in how badly the school are dealing with it.

 

Take care, and love your boy - he's having a terrible time.

 

Elanor

[Malika]

Hi stressmumto. <'> <'> <'>

 

This post has really upstet me so much poor you and poor son, just remind me of H when he was in year 1 kicking the teacher every morning and yelling "mummy" for an hour or so on the playground refusing to go to school.

 

There are few things here the most important is that the school has to find appropriate strategy to deal wtih you son, threat and violence are not an option it is more that obvious that your son needs support and not blame he must be completly distress and feeling abandon, and yes this is so commun behaviour for ASD children may be you should push for a ASD or AS DX.

 

Another thing is the medication your son is in if it is the wrong one it can have disastrous effect and you should ask the DR who prescribe it why he is not benefiting from it .

Another point is that it seems to me that this care taker is holding some prejudice wether racial or just because he is ignorant of your son condition.

 

I think you have to make an official complain for phisical assault and denounce the school for not providing adequate support for his condition, I am sure there are organisation which could help you with this I will look on the net (got few idea in mind) and I will send you a PM

 

You are very stressed yourself and may be you should talk to your GP and ask for some support.

 

Something has to be done if not this situation is just going to escalate until complete exclusion.

 

In the mean time as your son is still quite young could you work out some form of chart in a way that if he goes to school without too much fuss after a week you will buy him a treat (toy video) then after 2 weeks ....it worked with H and I use to bring him a treat (like little magasine or sweets) when ever he had been calm on the morning and the teacher whould let him have some times on the computer (it may be that your son would like to do something else) every friday when he had a good week, one meltdown a week would still keep him on but with a warning.

I use as well to speak to him about having to go to school and it was something he had to do, I must say I have been very strict at the time (he was not DX yet) but somehow I think it was the right thing to do for H as now even when he has bad period of time he still accept that he has to go which help him to get into a routine.

 

One last thing is to try to communicate with him during week end and evening and to pass your message that you want to help him but he has to try harder. Don't you think as well that he may have some food intolerance which makes matter worst.

 

I know it is difficult for both of you but doing nothing will surely bring more problems.

 

Take care hope things will improve. <'> <'> <'>

 

Malika.

[stressedmumto2]

Thanks for all replys.

 

I have been struggling with the school since just after christams now on what we can do to ensure he goes to school and stays within school. I have asked for meeting after meeting and seem to be getting knowhere. The school and myself put rewards into place for him going into school nicely, 10 mins playing footie, then 5 mins on pc (my suggestions but I don't think they last long because by the time he is in meltdown is time being used up. I have tried taking things away, bribes but nothing works, he doesn't wantto be in school.

 

I have had involvement with S/S who are at last trying to offer support but that's after blaming it on myself ie parenting etc. The best quote they gave was because I have atteneded parenting courses the stratergies should be working why are they still not.

 

I don't know who to turn to or what to do, it feel's like all services are against me and i'm fighting all of them at the same time.

 

Several meeting have been held, I have asked for him to be statemented and put in a request but asyou know it takes 6 weeks. I have asked the school to see if it could have been rushed but I think they are a bit reluctant I also contacted LEA and they wont rush it.

 

He is on action plus and was recieveing 5 hours support a week which is used in the afternoon to help with literacy and numeracy but now that has been moved to the morning to help settle him into school.

 

The thing is for a long time I was saying to school that they were beneffiting form his mediaction at school and then when he was coming home he was letting out, since his behaviour at school has worsened at home he has been better but I think that's mainly due to me learning new stratergies.

 

The medication is under constant review and I do know that it works, when he's not going into one he's very calm and concentrates well.

 

The school are going to be getting outside help which is going to start on Monday, at the last meeting we had with the school on Tuesday it was recommended by out reach that he has a mobile phone to call or txt me at lunch times. I have provided them with one and he hasn't used it yet.

 

It does appear tome that the caretaker did have something against him that day. The thing is his 1-1 who only does work with him sometimes wasn't aware of his ADHD untill I told her and I think that basically most of the staff just think he's a naughty child. Even when I tell them off his difficulties it's very much like they are not listening.

[UltraMum]

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[jen]

This child is crying out for help its the adults that are big s..........not your son.

 

Ask the school if they have any experience with children similar to your child. Ask them to get support service e.g. behaviour support to give them help and advice.

 

 

 

First if the school do not know how to handle him they should do something about it. In our LEA there is team teach approach which teaches the teachers how to difuse the situation. It is an excellent course. Sometimes my child has to be restrained for his own safety and then they use this approach but physical restraint is the last resort.

 

I would write to the head of governor stating all your concerns. The school caretaker should not be touching your child or speaking to your child. This needs to be addressed with a letter to the school and governors and actions need to be put in place to stop this problem.

 

You need to request in writing an emergency meeting with the teacher, head person, special needs co-ordinator, ed psy, specialist support services to address how they are going to handle your son. (Take parent parnership or a good friend who can support you). Write done in the meeting what happens and how things are going to be in to support your child. (Use this for getting support in your childs statement). If the school do not send you a letter stating what was discussed and what procedures they are going to put into place to support your child you need to write them a letter stating what you understand was the result of the meeting. Ask in the meeting can your childs needs be meet within this school or what is the opinion of the people in the meeting.

 

Say when your child misbehaves his purpose is to be sent home. (My child also went through the same thing, so when he had a major meltdown instead of taking him home I would go to the school and stay with him until he settled down)

 

 

Have you offered to go into school so you can see what is happening in your childs classroom. (I went in my childs classroom and saw all kinds of things that were creating problems these needed to be sorted out before my son was happy).

 

 

Get the help of your psy keep him/her up to date and see what they can suggest. (All useful information to help with your childs statement)

 

PLEASE REMEMBER YOUR CHILDS BEHAVIOUR IS STATING THAT HE CAN NOT COPE AND HE NEEDS HELP. (You get so angry and frustated yourself with the child and the school but keep talks to a polite but pussy mode)

 

 

Jen

 

We have been there just like your son and we have come out the other end.

[Malika]

Hi again, <'> <'> <'>

 

Well it seems that the school has done a little bit but may not know how to deal with your son.

 

Are yousure there are no issue of bullying or abuse within the school?

It seems to me that since you have learned to apply some strategy he is better at home but transfered this to school, so the answer is to find out strategies who can work, this again seems to indicate some issue like AS or ASD.

 

Have you look at some information about ODD (oposition defiant disorder) it often develope in children with ADHD because they are often misunderstood and badly treated where ever they are. if this is the case something has to be done fairly quickly as it may only get worst.

Now I found this ling with some advice on school phobia which may help.

 

http://www.handbag.com/family/sevenup/schoolphobia/

 

Take care.

 

Malika

[phasmid]

This situation cannot be allowed to go any further without action being taken. The first and most important thing to remember here is regardless of any 'suspected ASD issues' your son does have a DX of a specific SEN - ADHD.

 

As you say the TA was unaware of his dx until you mentioned it to her are the teaching staff also blissfully unaware of it as well I wonder, and I ###### well hope that is NOT the case, especially as your son is on SA+. They should be aware of this dx nd taking it into account. Clearly there are issues centred around this that need to be looked at. However I would say the most pressing need here is what has apparently happened with the caretaker.

 

Except in certain circumstances no member of staff should need to use any form of physical contact to control a pupil. There are normally very strict rules in place about what these circumstances are and they are normally a last resort measure intended to prevent harm coming to anyone including the pupil themselves.

 

You need to approach this carefully. We will deal with it step by step. I would suggest you talk to your son in front of a witness and at the same time record the conversation with him on tape (failing that run a mic through your PC and save it onto a cd rom). It is important that you do not ask him 'leading questions' such as 'Why did the caretaker grab hold of your neck?' it could be argued that this may lead him to agree to the fact that this happened. A better approach would be to ask 'can you tell me what happened to you on Thursday after I took you back to school?' this leaves it up to him to say what happened rather than having it suggested to him. Let him tell you his version - don't jump in if it has changed, simply encourage him to continue using phrases such as 'I see, then what happened?' and 'Who else was there?' and so on. Try to build a clear picture of his version of things without leading him. Once you have this type it up as acurately as possible and use this as the basis of your enquiry (don't use the word compliant just yet).

 

The next step is to approach the school with this version (in writing) and ask them for a few things:

 

1. A copy of the incident log signed as a true copy of the original document.

 

2. A copy of the SEN policy.

 

3. A copy of the behaviour and discipline policy/icies. (This ought to include instructions on the use of restraint techniques).

 

4. The names of all those present (this should include the child witness - who may not be named but refered to as 'child 'x' from '?' class.

 

5. A written explanation of their version of events.

 

You will need all of these to formulate the best way to deal with this. If any of this documentation is refused to be copied to you (and they can charge for it - but there is a set formula they have to follow) then it will have to be requested (again in writing) from the Chair of Governors. Once you have all that we can take things forward. It must be done following the schools complaints procedure (you'll need to ask for a copy of that too) otherwise they will simply insist you start from the first stage again.

 

 

You can get through this. We can help. You are not alone with this. Once you have all the above I strongly advise you seek the advice of IPSEA. I will help all I can but they have much better resources than I do to deal with this.

 

Stay strong.

[helenl53]

Hi Phasmid

 

Just so you know - this parent is in my neck of the woods

 

Best wishes

 

HelenL

[oracle]

Just so you know - this parent is in my neck of the woods

 

SORTED then

 

Seriously this is really good news for stressedmumto2. I was going to ask is there was a support network in her neck of the woods - probably the best that there is

 

Carole

[phasmid]

I agree!

[helenl53]

Thanks you guys - but there is only so much I can do.

 

As we know - this sort of thing is happening all over the UK with no one to police it.

 

I am very scared for this family as I know that SS et al are really really pinged off with her!

 

Mind you - I am helping her plug away

 

I think some of them at the meeting the other day may have got a bit of a shock to see me turn up! If not, no dout the EWO will let them know she has a pal with attitude :

 

HelenL

[stressedmumto2]

Thanks for all the advice everyone.

 

Big thanks to my friend who only attended the school with me last week.

 

If I do pursue with this as you have said Phasmid?

 

Could the school then wait for another oppurtunity to exclude my son permanantly, this is a big worry I have at the mo'. If the school could have him out I very much think they would and their excuse could be because he's a danger to other children and the staff.

 

What's is the likey hood of this happening ?

 

Despite everything I do want my son to remain in this school, he's made good friends there, it's the same school his sister goes to and he's used to it, I could go on and on but i'll spare you ;-)

[phasmid]

Perhaps they should tell them her pal has pals too

[Malika]

Hi to all,

 

Phasmid,

 

Helen get ready

 

Stressmumto <'> , please by any mean stay strong and put your trust in who has you interest at heart...(the two people above for example ) do things in order and keep being focus on this process of complain it is this which eventualy will protect your son. You are lucky to have somebody near who knows what to do and can help you.

 

Do not give up and take care.

 

Malika.

[DaisyProudfoot]

You know your boy is not in the wrong ......... this school obviously doesn't know how to cope with situations like this where emotionally stressed children are involved ... and this bl**dy caretaker

 

Glad to hear you've got support there ... keep up the battle it's one you're sure to win ... don't let the b***ers grind you down.

 

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[gromit]

Hi,

 

This is an awful situation to be in but in NO WAY is your boy a wee s**t or to blame. I can totally relate to everything your saying, my son is really violent at times and gets so upset about what he's done ... REMEMBER their behaviour is only a manifestation of their confusion and inability to cope.

 

For an educational establishment the school sounds very uneducated in dealing with this. The caretaker incident is totally unacceptable and probably needs to be recorded and reported.

 

I dont know what else to say really, others have gave really good advice so I really hope you can see you have support here. Youre strong and doing your best for your wee one. Best of luck.

 

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[darky]

hiya love, im really sorry for you that you and TY have had to go through this with school. i cannot really add to the brilliant advice already offered, but there are some questions that need answering here. what right does a care-taker have in intervening with school matters? why was the care-taker involved? is the care-taker trained in restraint? is the care-taker actualy allowed to be involved in school matters? what a bully he sounds to grab a 7yr old like that, the care-taker would not have any clue what problems your son has. take this seriously and make an official complaint. the school will have to investigate it. i might even be tempted to phone the police. this is assult by someone who does not have the right to handle/restrain your child. even a teacher has to be correctly trained in restraint issues. its not an issue as to what ty was doing at the time. this man had no right to even touch your child let alone handle him like that. take it all the way. thats my advice! no wonder the little lamb has problems with going to school and these circumstances are not going to help any at all! <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

[phasmid]

Darky raises some very valid points here:

 

hiya love, im really sorry for you that you and TY have had to go through this with school. i cannot really add to the brilliant advice already offered, but there are some questions that need answering here. what right does a care-taker have in intervening with school matters?

 

Probably none at all!

 

why was the care-taker involved?

 

A very good question!

 

is the care-taker trained in restraint?

 

I for one would be surprised - it is possible though.

 

is the care-taker actualy allowed to be involved in school matters?

 

Possibly/ possibly not. It does depend on other things (maybe a governor or part time TA, for example)

[joshanddanfans]

Hi,this is going to be a long post, sorry in advance. I really need some suggestions though.

 

I have a child who is 7 he is dx with ADHD and shows some aspergers characteristics, so far to date it's been concluded that he does not have Aspergers. His behaviour has always been ok at school but nearly every time after a holiday he doesn't want to go back to school and will try to resist going.

 

He is very violent at home and just lately he is exhibiting the same behaviour at school. Reluctance to go in and leave me in the mornings has resulted in him lashing out at staff, using innapropiate language to staff and in front of other children, throwing of furniture (not at anyone but just throwing it about) and spitting. The school have excluede him twice because of this beahviour but I have since asked and told the school that even though it is in the interest of the other children to ensure their safety I feel very much he has learnt that by showing this behaviour I will be asked to collect him, which is ultimatly what he wants. He is very anxious either about being in school or leaving me. Once he has clamed down he will often break down in tears and then be quite calm for the rest of the day. He is on Concerta but the school think I am not giving it to him because of the rages he is going into.

 

On thursday after I left the school he ran out, luckily I was fairly near by 2 roads away but he still got to me before I had left the road. I got him back into school. When I left again later that day I was told that he had run out of school and was very disruptive at one time there was mean to of been 5 memebrs of staff trying to calm him. They have not tried to restrain him as no member of staff know's how to restrain. I have told them that only 1 member or 2 memebers of staff should be with him when he is like this, mostly because he will say things like 3 adults to one child that's stupid, you can't do anything.

 

As you are reading this you will probably be thinking what a little sh*t, I too would think it as an outsider whoknow's nothing about him but he's not,he's very scraed and worried at the moment and I think he feels scared when he's in a rage but doesn't know how to snap out of it.

 

Get back to thursday, he came home form school and told me that the caretaker had grabbed the back of his neck, his clothes and threw him onto the chair in the heads office, there were 2 TA's who witnessed it and the head also one of the reception children. I asked the head what had happened and she said that the care-taker may have grabbed his jumper by accident becausehe was kicking a member of staff and that the incident had been logged.

 

Yseterday my son come home from school and was angry with me because he though I had not said anything to the school, I told him I had and what the head had said and he said she was lying. I then asked him to rein-act it on his sister. I was shocked by what I witnessed. My son was lifted by the back of his t-shirt and jumper about 2 feet of the ground so that his t-shirt was very tight around his neck, he said it hurt, he also told me hicked the care-taker about 5 times in the private part to try and get him to let go off him. He was then thrown onto a chair in the heads room which he fell of and banged his head, he then told me he stayed on the floor crying wanting me to collect him. This was also witnessed by another child and the other child had told his mum that the caretaker had kicked my son and had him by the back, this child is only 4 though but all his mum had asked was did he see my son and who was with my son.

 

On the thursday before I had managed to leave the school my son was spitting and the caretaker commented to him, "do it to me, bet you wont will you, u only do that kind of thing to women do you".

 

I know my son has been so violent to staff but I don't expect them to behave in this way. I have made complaints recently about the deputy for making the comment to my child that he could not be bothered with him no more, he tried to get out of it saying he hadn't but the EWO wasthere when he said it so I did have a witness. I don't know what to do about this incident. I feel I have to protect my son from this sort of thing happening but how do I when the head is also saying that it didn't happen. I know my son isn't lying, he doesn't want the caretaker to get into trouble but said he doesn't want him to ever do that to him again, he's also said he would tell the police exactly what had happened, he would tell anyone because he say's he shouldn't do it shoud he mummy.

 

Where do I go from here ? Any suggestions would be great l

 

 

hi you have had a rough time of it. im afraid its all part and parcel of having these special kids. one suggestion i dont know wether already suggested but do you have an ADHD link nurse or even better local parent partnership they will help particularly with meetings at school. your child was restrained with uneccessary force that for sure. this caretaker should not be working with children. also your sons meds dont seem to be working, my boys isnt at the moment so i know what that is like. need to reassess meds with doc or pead. being angry about his treatment wont help him at the centre of this is a sad boy that needs help and it is up to you as parent to get the help. even if you hate the school and the teachers you need to work with them if your son is to have any chance of being happy. the ed phych will tell you if a smaller setting or different environment would be better for him. sorry cant help any more, alex CHIN UP AND BATTLE ON !!!!!!!!!!

[helenl53]

I sent the Dfes circular and the HT can authorise persons, including the caretaker, however, my concern is that people are manhandling a 7 year old without restraint technique training. This week might make a difference - there are some outreach people going in to the school.

 

The caretaker has made some inappropriate comments to this child and I would consider that this is a matter that needs to be commented on.

 

The problem for this young man is that, there is no ###### alternative to the school he is in - there is no specialist provision and we are going to see him run into problem after problem. It is like sticking your finger into the dyke (no pun intended - Darky will know what I mean ).

 

Helen

[darky]

errrrm yes helen i know exactly what you mean! but for the record, i know nothing about sticking my finger in any dyke! pmsl

[stressedmumto2]

Thanks everyone for brilliant advice.

 

It was Helen who told me to post about it and i'm glad I did.

 

Well I have written my letter, video taped my son acting out on his sister what happened.

 

I am livid that a member of staff has behaved in this way.

 

Tomorrow is going to be another tough day, son has been saying all day he doesn't want to go tomorrow, butthen again, that's nothing new.

 

I'lllet you know how I get on, Thanks again ;-)

[phasmid]

I hope it goes Ok tomorrow. It's not going to be easy for either of you. Good luck.

[jen]

Hi stressed mumto2

 

if the head thinks or the child has a history of needing restraining then the school should organise training for all the staff otherwise they are failing in their duty to help your son, prevent an episode escalating causing a danger to your child, staff and other pupils.

 

 

All the staff in my sons school has had training for diffusing the situation and if necessary restraining the child. (RESTRAINING A CHILD SHOULD BE DONE AS A LAST RESORT AND ONLY BY TRAINED STAFF UNLESS IT IS IN AN EMERGENCY).

 

 

When my childs school arranged the training they had to pay per person so there would be no way a caretaker would be trained. Also the teachers need to understand why the child is acting in the manner and how a disability may affect a child. Caretakers would not have this information.

 

 

My sons school had a trainer come in with me present to discuss the training and also advise the three staff present how to restrain my son.

 

Jen

[Malika]

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Best of luck.

 

Malika.