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Hi Niki and welcome <'> My son was pre dx in june '05 and formally dx aug '05. If this falls into your criteria feel free to pm the questionairre.....always happy to help! Good luck with your quest....

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Glad to hear he's ok now! Many happy returns Rhys

lol Lauren...quite agree!!

Hi JAM I thought it was just me......glad it isn't! Ds all kicked of with a stutter.....anyway to cut a very long story short, nx doors boy started a stutter which worsoned with time. I politely said to her have you thought of taking him to speech therapy. She said no, your son grew out of it (only lasted a couple of months) mine will. I left it at that, now nearly 2 yrs later he is still very bad, if not worse. The lad in question is 5 1/2 and i really struggle to understamd him sometimes, but his mum isn't worried. She has a lot on her plate at the mo, but i really want to bring it up again, just trying to help really, i just know as soon as a problem is detected, the better the chance of dealing with it. So i guess i am in the same boat, don't know whether to say owt. For the record we aren't just neighbours but best friends as well, so she never takes anything i say out of context. Don't get me wrong i don't think he is ASD but his speech is very poor for his age. tmf

When you put it like that paula then no i am not suprised! I have never understood why a parent can just up and leave their own flesh and blood. My nan was fab as well, she has been dead 10 yrs this yr and i still miss her like mad, probably why i am very close to mother-in-law to be, she is nearly the age my nan was when she died. In fact probably the only reason i watch corrie....vera duckworth reminds me of her in someways My mum has never suggested abortion (not that i would as am dead against it) she jut thinks he is occasionally 'naughty' and deal with it.... I really could go on and on about what my mum has done, the list is as long as my arm, if not longer! I have since learnt not to dwell on it, she is who she is and no matter what i say she aint gonna change. I have just learnt that my children and fiance come first no matter what and thats all i care about. In fact a lot of my probs at mo run much deeper than i realised, all dating back to childhood, it was only until i had a long talk with m-i-l and fiance that i realised i had feelings there that i never knew existed In a way it helped my mum being awful to me, as it made all these feelings come out and why i am the person i am today and it has helped me build on this. Anyway trailing of the point now.....feel free to pm if you ever want a chat of-line, am here if you need it. Crossing fingers for you with regards to your blood tests xx

<'> <'> You are certainly not alon with this one! When my i had to go for my sons dx, i was expecting the result, because on the meeting prior to it she suggested AS and told us to read up on it, so it was of no great suprise. Anyway when i returned home to collect kids from childminders, i took one look at my ds and sobbed my heart out...christ knows how i would have been if i wasn't expecting it! And like the others, i still find some days so hard i just break down and ask why me??? i then look at him and know he is still my little boy that i love just as much today as the day he was born!

Hi Paula, sorry to hear what you are going thru. I do hope the test results come back soon and are ok?? You certainly need lots of these <'> <'> <'> !! I thought my mum was bad....thought they broke the mould when they made her...lol! If i don't i would only cry Sounds like your mum and mine are the same, she doesn't understand me or my son. Basically because it is an illness/syndrome of the brain and you can't see anything physicaly wrong with you she doesn't think there is a problem. She has never excepted ds dx of AS...says he looks normal!!! Question is what the bleedin hell does she expect him to look like! She just thinks of my depression as an excuse to be lazy and do sweet fa little does she know! I have now realised i can't rely on my side of the family for things like this, they would rather sweep it under the carpet than deal with it. As for the in-laws to be on the other hand......i know i probably shouldn't say it and those of you close to your own mothers/daughters will proabably look on me with disgust, as much as i hate to say, or rather shouldn't say it, i have more respect and time for my mother-in-law to be than i do my own mother. And i know the feeling is mutual, she has even said i am the daughter she never had! Take all my recent depression for example, she come and stayed with me when my other half was away (she lives 2hrs away when mine only lives 5mins away) because she didn't want me to be on my own with how i was feeling. When i went on the tablets she phoned to say how pleased she was i had finally taken the plunge to seek help, my own mother just said what do you want to take them for.... Paula, i really could go on and on about the things my mother does or rather doesn't do to support, all i wanted to say was you are not alone in this, just wished lived nearer could support each other!! Anyway take care xx

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<'> <'> <'> Thoughts are with you and your family at such a sad time. You don't say how old your son is. My son is 6 and we explained that his nanny was poorly and had gone to live with the angels. He accepted this. We keep her memory alive with pictures, we talk to her every so often and i also take him to the crem to lay flowers. When we get there the trees always seem to start shaking with a slight breeze, we explain that is nanny saying hello. I know it sounds daft, but he excepts this. The sad thing is, my son actually never met my nan, she died yrs before he was born. But he taks about her and knows about her because of keeping her memory alive. It was something we had to do because he couldn't understand why we were leaving flowers on the ground! As for your dilema, i don't know what to say to help. Are there any books around in child format that explains death? I know its not the same, but when i was pregnant with my daughter i gave my son a book that explained mummy's tummy getting bigger and the end result was a baby to live with us. When she was born, he accepted her straight away because he was prepared. Take care

This is exactely what it has been like!! That is why i like it on here, someone is either feeling, or been thru what you are. It's the only place i can talk without feeling stupid! Thanks for your kind words paula and justamom xx

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Happy b'day Jill.....hope its a good one!

Thats amazing....u r so lucky living there! Mind you i would never get anything done, i could watch the waves all day, i find them very theraputic!

Hi Richt I won't ask how you are feeling, i was where you are now a wk ago and boy is it some pit to be in. I finally realised i couldn't carry on like it anymore and made ap for gp. It was my best move. I was able to get everything out that had been stored for sometime and ended up breaking down in her office. She was very sympathetic, put me on tabs, but went thry everything about them 1st. And then took my biggest pressure away from me....she signed me of from work. My employer is being just the same at the mo, just coz they have never suffered depression they don't understand when soemone does and thinks you should just get on with things. Try and get hold of the pamphlet 'deflating depression' it was reading this that gave me the push to go to the gp. It really puts it into perspective why you feel the way you do at this present time in your life. Although the tablets take up to 14 days to kick in, i already feel better in the fact i have talked to somebody about it, I can't even begin to tell you what a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders in doing so. Pls pls make the app.....it really does help! I truely hope you are ok after some sleep..... <'>

Just the same here 2!! Hope your sons feeling better now.

Hi TM Why do kids do this!!! My son wanted Buzz, so we gave him a Buzz bedroom for his b'day......10 mths l8r wanted spiderman, we said no. Compromised and bought just the duvet cover. Boy am i glad we didn't, his spiderman stage lasted all but a month!! Anyway he now loves Harry Potter, but he's not asked for his bedroom this time!...YET! And guess what.......he is now back into bleedin Buzz Lightyear!!!!!

This is disgusting!! A Teacher is put in a place of trust and respect and should never speak to a child in this way whether they are ASD or NT!!! And they wonder why we are in a world where people are horrible to one another and hardly any1 has respect for 1 another when are supossed 'teachers' are the bleedin culprits!!! This world really isn't a nice place anymore! I hope you get it sorted with the them....ur SENco sounds like they are on the ball. Keep us informed, will be interesting to find out the outcome.

hello tyw and a big warm welcome to the forum <'> It's a gr8 place for a bit of help and advice!! Just wanted to say that my fiance and i beleive he has AS, yet he is undiagnosed. It can be hell sometimes, it is like having 3 kids in the house sometimes. Trying to explain in a way that they understand because they can't seem to think outside the box is really hard, especially when you do it all the time to our son who is 6 and has AS. He drives me completely insane, but i love him. He really doesn't understand me at all 1/2 the time, but i think that's why we are soo strong. We have a good partnership as well as relationship, all be it can be hard at times! I used to explode at him, but since learning about AS, and beleiving he may well have it i am not so bad (he might have something different to say on the matter mind! ) I just have to except he has his little ways and am slowly beginning to adapt to our new way of life. But i do love him and i know he loves me and thats all that matters. I don't know if that helps with your question or not, i justthought i would share what is like living with some1 who is thought to have AS. There maybe someone along soon enough that can offer you some 'actual' advice. Good luck, tmf xx

better change the direction then and quick! lol ERASER

This day is just getting better..... Have just had a 2nd highlight of the day!! Mum and da just came over and took both kids back to their house for t to give me a break I now have a tidy house and enjoyin' 'me' time! Guess thats 4 highlights!!!

Hi I have been feeling for quite sometime now (since new year) and have been trying to convince myself it was only mild depression and could get over this with no help. Well how wrong could i have been!!! This last wk has got to be the worst in my whole life. I can't get out of bed in the mornings so df is tsking ds to school. Anyway we had a major row yesterday coz i couldn't face it again and i got the good ol' lecture to pull my ###### socks up. He then apologised but had said his work were noticing him being l8 all the time and couldn't carry on doing it. Anyway, it was the shove i needed, finally went to the drs today and broke down in her office and let it all out about what had been going on. Explained my hang-up about going on a/d tabs. She was soo nice, she really thoroughly explained how they work and timescales ect. She even said i was 1/2 way there to admitting i needed help. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders, i start the tabs tomorrow and have been signed of work for 2 wks, but she said she would probably do it for longer when i go and see her again in a few wks time. That is the best medicine coz work are being a bunch of ass****s!! They soooo don't care about their staff, more ###### interested in figures so 2 fingers to them, they have lost my loyalty!! I have devoted my life to them for 9yrs, and for what, a time when i need them to support me they stick their fingers up....well 2-chey! Right i think that is now everything of y chest, Should feel a stone lighter now ......IF ONLY!!

Hi Hev One is assuming a/d tabs?? I finally gave in and had them prescribed today and dr advised me to give it 2 wks. In that 2 wks is when the side effects happen and they should have advised you to make an appointment fo 2 wks time to see how they are going and if they are the right dosage ect. Hope that helps?? tmf xx

Jill you have come with some very useful things. I certainly would never have even considred ticking those boxes! I really must start to learn to think outside the box!! Anyway somebody from the BAS has referred me to somebody who is an expert at wording and filling out these forms, so hopefully help will be at hand very soon Then who knows, hopefully i can be one of 'brain boxes' as Board puts it and give advice instaed of seeking!!

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