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just got back it was the rsa i have brought it home to read and sign. Basically it states every thing i have said over the last 5 years and him now agreeing with me. It says about js behavior and they have been having problems with him but they always tell me they have never seen bad behavior!!!! it says that he cannot work with a class it has to be a small group or 1:1 umm that his spelling age is 7.2 hes 11.2 maths is below 2 and in the last paragraph he has put without a statement of special ed needs, the level of support will be greatly reduced and he will not cope with the organizational demands of a large secondary school or with the social aspect. primary school provides him with a very secure and known environment where his differences are understood by all but this will not be the situation in sept 2008. the gap between his levels of attainment and his peers is increasing. It also said about the library thing and they say they have had problems with him on the morning of swimming with anxiety so why does no one tell me ffs argghhh!!! also that they carried out a lucid rapid test and the probability of him being dyslexic was very high!!! im really pleased that this is such a good report but at the same time im a little piddled off that they dont see fit to tell me that they are having problems with him too. whether this be behavioral or anxiety. what do i do now do i leave the school to it or do i carry on with my rsa (has got to the eveidence stage)

had no feedback at all about snt only what kids in his class have told me exactly what i told the school about the library but they want a 100% record for the school joining If it is the rsa my aunt has told me not to sign it and either bring it home to read to her over the phone or make another appointment for tuesday so she can come in and see it to (shes busy monday)

ive been to all of js appointments on my own as hub cant take anything that means we have been bad parents (criticism) and he loses his temper nobody has ever questioned anything so i wouldnt worry about it <'>

request for statutory assessment. Its the paperwork basically that goes to children and young persons services for a statement

they do sats at 7 so year 2 and then another lot in yr6.

yep

sorry i cant comment on the first bit as i have no experience with this. but sats..... my ds1 took his at 7 in a different room with a reader.(real paper) these are sort of put in to classroom work at this age and neither of my boys really knew they were going on. But the ones he has in may i have suggested he doesnt do as hes stressed already this year about going up to seniors and the extra work load he has had to cope with, these are in proper exam conditions which will stress him out too as he has to sit in once place and be quiet. At my nephews school (nt) they dont do them at all!!!

I have just read the other post sorry. Its disgusting what you and your family have been though and i hope heads roll for it. <'> ><

right what haven't i done lol. went and viewed local units and none were suitable for him so filled out the transition forms for local sn school. I have done the rsa and i am just gathering evidence a feat in its self Ed psych wrote a report first one she had done in 2 years and it was all poop, it said for starters that the school noticed his clumsiness in reception and it wasnt it was his nursery ( different town)and he was diagnosed with dyspraxia in the summer between nursery and school. ###### glory seekers!!! Got a letter from transition team to say if i didn't nominate another school he would be placed in any school so i wrote a lovely letter back giving my reasons for him not being able to attend these schools and that ANY school wouldn't take him (ive checked) and as i have given valid reasons for him not to be able to go to these school they were more than welcome to suggest a alternative. Senco and me had words again because he said that i HAVE to take him to the library in town either in the evening or at weekends. Evenings are now to dark (i live on a rough estate) and weekends the library is packed and j has anxiety attacks when in groups of people.Senco then said we have no such problems at school and i asked him calmly and politely how many times had he taken j to the supermarket on a saturday morning because i really welcomed this respite He then procceded to tell me that j would "just have to get over it" Infront of j so i turned around, mumbled a swear word and walked away from him . Also j is still going on about this http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...mp;#entry178848 which was also his fault. school were supposed to have done a rsa in september and they still havent done it because they are having a snt in at the mo to teach j social skills. Hes been having him now for 6 weeks and i can honestly see no difference in they way he acts with other kids. We have had no iep this term because they didnt know what to put on it without the snt there!!! oh and the new ep is pants just sits there nodding his head and agreeing with senco even though he has never ever met j. But because he has read up on him from the other ep report!!!! School found out that i was applying for statement this week and they want me to go and sign some paperwork at 11am monday dont know if they are panicking or its the iep. If it is their Rsa can i ask for copies of it?? think thats it for now sorry

<'> >< this is exactly the reason why me and my sister fell out. she accused me of "making it up" cause shes never seen his anxiety problems she probably only sees him once a year. If she hasnt read it in a book its not right. Dont you just wish there was a book out there for every child that has as/asd with all their own traits in it so we could see what we were dealing with come on everyone lets get writing also a friend of mine (neighbour) decided that she would have j for a fortnight and sort out his sleeping problems. You can put him bed at 2am and he will still be up at 4.30 am. So i said fine off you go.................... she lasted 4 days. now when i moan at how tired i am she never gives out stupid advise they all think they know everything and its just a case of "training" them.

I know what you mean. I was sure J had add as it turned out it was asd i bawled and bawled in front of the dr mixture of relief and sadness that he had got to 10 without anyone dx it. <'> >< to you and R.

i come from northants and have put east of england but i could be east midlands aswell funny county i live in lol

im an autobiography type of gal atm its Sharon Osbourne. Ive read all of the about a boy books aswell and read them over and over

:thumbs: well done

:notworthy: well done what a b day prezzie

thats not banter omg morons. my J interprets what we would call verbal bulling as them having fun with him (poor lad) but never physical bulling how can anyone interpret that as banter push it further <'> to your ds

<'> >< dont know what to say but couldnt read and run huge hugsss hun <'> ><

1) Have you ever had someone say one thing about your child when you know the exact opposite is true and have the professional reports to back it up? school do it all the while like they say he has lots of friends and this is a major meltdown trigger. My other son tells me that j has been sat on his own. 2) Have you experienced antagonism during meetings and discussions about any aspect of your child ie health/education? yes with senco and ep. senco is the worst and i come away doubting myself 3) Have you ever felt 'threatened' in any way by the attitude of professionals/officials involved in any aspect of your child? eps are the worse. senco can be very sarcastic. consultant can be very cold at times like i moaning for nothing cause the school NEVER back me up. 4) Have you ever come away from a meeting/discussion/phone call feeling like they have tried to brain wash you? all the time with the school, ive had a few with cafs but camhs proved them wrong 5) Have you experienced bare faced lies from anyone involved in your child's education? senco told me he could assure me that j showed no autistic traits even though i had got j dianosis the week before and for 4 years telling me that he had done rsas. 6) If you have answered yes to any of the above how did you deal with it? prove them wrong, fight your corner your the parent. edited to put i was also diagnosed by the senco as having munchousen (sp) by proxy at one point . he wondered why i blew my top

see its not a problem for us and we don't make it one. J is the way he is and thats it (in my eyes) i wouldn't want to change him. Ok yes it would be a problem if he was going mainstream seniors but not on my nelly is he. He has severe educational issues, social issues (other than crowds) ie he has no idea about expressions or emotions and these to me are much needed skills for a senior school. The school that he wants to go to has 60 kids with moderate/severe learning difficulties and he is already a member of a youth group with some of the kids and he is like a different child. it is really hard to explain ummmm like..... he hasn't got to pretend that hes perfect. If one makes a mistake in team games they all laugh together or if one cant ride a bike they all get together and help. Hes soooo relaxed no meltdowns no fights its lovely for him and us.oh and no flaming bulling. I feel that senco is trying to " fix " everything before July and we have been trying for 11 years why cant they just accept that my boy is always going to be like that and stop trying to prove me wrong!! btw they have never proved me wrong and hes always trying his best to find a fault with j, my parenting skills (even though i have 2 other kids that are well above their peers and all 3 are well mannered etc) and my family i want him to learn these yes with help but also in time he has got SATS, transition, outreach coming in every week to teach him social skills and not taking in the fact that he has dyspraxia and a lack or organizational skills with endless lists and books that are confuzzling him more , and a full on getting him to use a keyboard for seniors (which they have tried several differnt ways in 5 years) this is just to much i feel and who gets the fall out? yep that right not the ones that are putting the pressure on ....school its us again. to little to late springs to mind. sorry i needed to get that out lot happier now. RSA in post tomorrow when ive copied it

we have a punch bag too only a small one. failing that we take him to the park and let him run it off. Just to say toys r us do a reasonably priced one too

We have a woman at the school we call her the old woman that lived in a shoe she has 9 kids and we think she is preggy again we cant tell. She always wears maternity dresses and is rather large , doesnt seem to put baby weight on and then pops em out next thing we know shes at the school with a baby

j gets panicky when in a crowd of people/kids has done since he was a babba. I went to see senco tonight something to do with them taking him library and me having to pay the fine lol but......... when i said about taking it back and the only time i had time to do this with him was on a Saturday and town is packed and he panics he said he will just have to get over it cause hes going seniors soon (hes not cause im fighting to get him in sn school). Now j will tell you and senco lol that its because hes scared of getting lost or snatched but i think its claustrophobia as he is really clingy in lift etc. Hes ok in the school playground because he knows the kids although senco didnt believe that he could be ok at school and not in the street. (dont know how many times hes took him to the supermarket ) heres how i would describe it- supermarket in a queue of say 3 trolleys and people- shifting from foot to foot face looks like hes in pain. crowded street - clings for dear life and looks terrified forever looking around him doesnt look like hes with us at all now they want to put him in a a school with a 1000+ pupils. ok it affects family life in a way means we cant go to the park on a summers day unless theres only us there, or we go seaside in October but otherwise we've worked around it and the only ones that don't see it are the school. is this a trait of asd or should i take him doctors. this isnt the only reason btw why im fighting for him to go sn school its just that hes made me thing that something weve always coped with might be a condition

Great news Hev

if only i was given the option lol

i love homework!!!!!!!! he doesnt understand it, i explain, he still doesnt get it, and i do it for him cause they put them on detention if they dont do it it... :clap: