mrs fussy

Hi wishingwell, we already have been refered and have seen child pead twice they are supposed to have referered us to CAMHS so just waiting at the moment Mrs F x ps by the way our GP is very good and no problems with referal and when my son was suffering with physical signs with regards to his anxiety about school he did write a letter to head saying that he agreed it was best that he was kept off school, so he is very supportive but did tell me that he tried to avoid getting involved with educational problems but if my son was having worries connected he would support me in keeping him off until this was sorted. You see my son got so bad with abdominal pain he was actually admitted to hospital and they could find nothing wrong he also had an ultrasound scan and after all this it was thought that it was all stress related. Mrs F x

Thanks wishingwell, your good wishes are much appreciated Mrs F x

Thanks wishing well for your reply no we have no diagnosis and son appears to be doing well at the moment, but you know just want to make sure hes not left like last time. Mrs F x

Hi as you all may know moved my son to a new school september as last made a complete wreck of him over the last school year. Anyway some positive for a change (after really struggling with peers at his last school and only one real freind) today hes been voted deputy school councillor by his class this s such a positive for him because its actualy the children that vote for them, could have cried (with happiness for a change), sorry just had to share that. Mrs F x

Excellent!!! you have them down to a tee flora, and yes id love to join the 'party' too.

Hi what is exceptional needs funding and what would be the criteria for this does anyone know?

Hi everyone does anyone know the procedure when a child moves school. My son has been at his new school 3 weeks now so assume all his records and IEPS and stuff from old school have now been transfered. I spoke to his class teacher breifly and she said they were just looking at his IEPS(dont know why because they were useless) my son was at school action plus and they were gathering evidence for a statement.(we moved him as he was an emotional wreck and school were well )At what stage should he be now on the new schools register will he have to go back down to SA or will he be still at SA+(the lea ed psych is the same one at his new school as old one)will the process have to start all over again or wil new school be able to use evidence from old school or will i be able to provide this as part of my evidence) schools round here get very little funding for SEN so do very little to help unless they are statement criteria. I have arranged to meet with the class teacher and SENCO but again like at old school they seem to want to put it off for as long as possible, its kinda like they like things to go wrong and are unwiling to put very little preventative measures in place as if a child is coping this really doesnt provide good evidence. I am not against a statement of course but do not wish to cause my son a breakdown in the process!!! which is what they dont seem to mind doing(i am a bit cynical after the treatment he had at his old school)The new school have made no attempt so far to contact or speak to me about my sons SEN although they are fully aware of past problems(including a 16 day exclusion)I know if he doesnt get certain very simple things put into place we are soon going to be having problems again as i can see he is already getting anxious. How is the best way to deal with this meeting i want to be assertive but i dont want to get there backs up, and i do want the neccessary things in place so that he can cope.Should i just be totaly open and say well i think he need statementing or just see how he goes on, although i do know that he just wont cope when he gets to secondary school and want the support in place for then(hes only 8 at moment) as i know i have a fight on my hands. Can anyone offer advice ---hope you understand what im trying to say as i do waffle on M rs F x

Pleased for you and your lad llisa hope it continues.

<'> >< <'> to you and your lad. :angry : to the senco and the lsa

Hi sorry no advice just to let you know my thoughts are with you and i think you were perfectly right not taking him home(unofficial exclusions are illegal)i told the head of my sons old school this so then she said well right im excluding him then for 16 days until the end of term!!! :wallbash: they are just a law unto themselves arnet they, its there fault in the first place that things have gone wrong due to there lack of support because of there preciuos funds and then our children get punished for it i ended up moving my son before i physically harmed the head. <'> to you and keep fighting Mr s F x

Yes my son just the same never stops although must say he does ask but constantly!!! for food Mrs F x

Hi I am not really any good at the giving of advice as usually only come on here to get advice. If it were me thogh i would certainly do what wishingwell advises you to do, i have took her advice on some things and found shes spot on. As far as being made to feel it is all your fault i can certainly sympathise with you, but get up[ dust yourself off and do what you know is best. The head at this school sounds like the one at my sons old school in the end we gave up and moved him mainly because i had no energy left to fight, but i think if you take wishingwells advice you wont go far wrong contact the ed psych as she suggests. (i wish i had have). Good luck and well im thinking of you take care Mrs F x

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Ha Ha brilliant J!!!(mind you karen might of known it would be mom to blame,same in our house lol)

Hi, and no i dont think your over reacting. These things really annoy me too you ask them if they can not do some things and it seems to me they go out of there way to do just the opposite!!! why is this? and writing in the homework book, how hard is that and they still cant do it, i had the same problem with a home/school diary at my sons old school me and teacher agreed this would be a good idea and they wrote in it twice in 6 mnths!!! then hit me with 6mnths of problems all at once!!! i certainly understand where your coming from, perhaps you should write to them with what you agreed at the meeting and then they cant deny having agreed. sorry no other suggestions but if you have any success getting through to them let me know your secret. :wallbash: Mrs F x

Hi jsmum this all sounds really positive i am realy happy you seem to be making progress to the help your son needs. From your thread i get the impression your son is not diagnosed??? If you wouldnt mind could you tell me where these asessments are caried out and cost. I feel a lot of my sons problems could be sensory and feel he does have some problems processing information which often lead to frustrations, so your thread was of great interest to me. Take care and well onwards and upwards for you now with all this positve stuff going on Mrs F x sorry just realised it does say in the bottom of your thread probable asd

Thanks smiley for your reply. I did think about leaving it a little longer but i am worried that something will happen in the meantime and his teacher said he had settled well but had been a little upset on a couple of occassions, what she meant by upset i am not sure angry or crying??? he did have a long exclusion from his last school and i dont want this repeated as he really lost his confidence at this time, also in the school newsletter this week the head had written a little piece which read something like 'if you have any concerns about your chids education please speak to the most appropriate teacher without delay, as the partnership between home/family is vital in educating a child' so it seems as though they are wlling as a school to actually listen to parents and perhaps i should be making sure i take the opportunity. I think i will ahve a word with his teacher about arranging a meeting and at least then they know i want to be part of it all even if nothing else is gained Mrs F x

Hi everyone hope everyone is keeping well. Can anyone help me with this it may seem like a silly thing to ask but i dont want to get this wrong.We moved our DS from his school to another local school as they basically refused to do anything to help him they were trying to get him statemented but wernt putting the things in place that WE thought that he needed although these were very small things we had asked for they obviously didnt want those included on the statement, so anyway we couldnt put him through it any longer and moved him. He has started his new school 2 weeks ago without any support at all and seems quite happy(his teacher is very nice and seems willing to help)Now we feel of course there are certain things that need to be put into place for him, who is it best to contact, should i speak directly to the senco and arrange an appointment or his teacher as i dont want to step on any toes but i want to make sure these things are done, and as soon as possible, (my son was at SA+ at his old school and on the gifted talented too)do i need to the G+T coordinator too as this i am sure will cause problems if he doesnt have suitable work, how would you play this one? i just want to keep the school as sweet as possible after all the problems at the old school. Thanks for any advice Mrs F x

Hi Karen, its great to hear J is doing so well so happy for you Mrs F x

Hi just wanted to add my experience of returning to school. My DS returned on Tues to another local school (we moved him after major fallout with the head and class teacher being unwilling to carry forward things that had been put in place the previous year for him, it was very little that we were asking for and they couldnt even do that, so after a year of fighting we finally gave up and moved him)We are not sure if this will prove to be the right thing, seems generally to be 'working' at the moment, There has been nothing put into place for him as really we want school to make there own judgements as what they feel he needs to see if they think the same as us(as old school totally disagreed) his teacher seems very nice, my DS said he likes her gave her 10 out of 10 so thats a good sign, even tho he said he had had some sort of disagreement with her.Accouple of things on the negative side hes had a couple of bumps which they have not told me about but nothing serious, so keeping our fingers crossed. thx Mrs F x

Hi everyone I would just like to say mumble giving your perspective on things i feel is very valuable to us parents to understand how our children see things and i personally really appreciate it you have pointed some things out here that well.... i hadnt realised until now so thankyou. Now before all the parents on the receiving end of all this have a go at me i can too believe me i can appreciate that it does at times drive you potty, and i think its also important to be able to come on here and say how it really makes us feel otherwise whats the point so i think its good that we can all do that well without people thinking we are in some way 'having a go at someone'I think it shows how this forum is so valuable to us all. Mrs F x.

Hi sorry no offering any help just a question for you who carried out these tests and were they for part of his statementing Mrs F x my <'> going out to you as regards the getting you down bit just remember your not alone.

Hi i hope you dont mind me crashing in on your thread, but could you possibly answer a question for me? when you handwriting support how is this provided (just my son struggles with this and school will do nothing about it just keep saying its a boy thing) also what kinds of things do they do as regards his social group. Thx Mrs F x

Thx wishingwell for again your sound advice it is much appreciated. I will keep you informed take care Mrs F x

Sorry no advice as fortunately have not had to deal with anything like this just wanted to say <'> >< <'>