:*(

[oxgirl]

I lay in bed this morning after taking my son to school and sobbed at the top of my lungs for four hours, I feel like I can't go on (*still crying now*). I'm so scared about the future and I just want it all to go away.

 

~ Mel ~

[pumpkinpie]

Im sorry things are so bad at the moment!!!!!!!!

Take care

[Bagpuss]

Mel

 

<'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Your not alone. Take care hun x

[bid]

<'> <'>

 

Bid

[LittleRae]

Mel

 

 

<'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Would you consider getting an advocate to contact SS on your behalf? Someone who knows you.

 

Thinking of you

 

A

[nellie]

Mel, <'> <'>

 

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time just now. If you can find the strength please try to call the

Princess Royal Trust for Carers http://www.carers.org/ at least you would have someone to talk to that understood, they might be able to offer support or point you in the right direction.

 

Take care

 

Nellie <'> <'>

[keyholekate]

Mel,

 

I'm sorry that you're going through this.

 

Regards KHK.

[Kathryn]

Mel,

 

Sorry life is grim at the moment.

 

<'> <'> <'>

 

K x

[pingu]

<'> Mel <'>

 

Take a deep breath and remember we are all here for you, <'>

 

shaz x

[Bullet]

<'> <'> Mel <'> <'>

[curra]

<'> <'> <'> Mel,

 

I'm sorry that things are looking so bad. There's a limit to what we can do on our own, and we all need at times someone to help us find the strength again. Could you get counselling for carers in your area? There are local charities where you can get it.

 

Take care

 

Curra

[Platefull of Love]

Mel <'> <'> <'> <'> .

[baddad]

Hope things are looking less difficult soon

 

& <'>

 

BD

[jlp]

How are you now? Hope things feel little bit better. x

[UltraMum]

<'> <'> <'> Mel <'> <'> <'>

[hev]

just seen your post <'> <'> ive no advice but i hope you are feeling better,i have days like this,you are definately not on your own,we all know how you feel,take care love hev xx

[purplegail]

Hiya

 

Hope it gets better soon. If you're like me you'll have up and down days - hope you're due for an 'up' on e soon

 

<'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Gail

 

I lay in bed this morning after taking my son to school and sobbed at the top of my lungs for four hours, I feel like I can't go on (*still crying now*). I'm so scared about the future and I just want it all to go away.

 

~ Mel ~

[Jericho]

<'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Sorry you're having such a tough time, Mel. <'>

[oxgirl]

Thanks a lot for all your replies.

 

I'm still feeling awful. I feel physically sick with the stress of everything, my legs are like jelly when I get up in the mornings and I'm exhausted and shaking and keep crying unexpectedly, I feel like I'm at breaking point. Not sure where to turn.

I'd go to the doctor to get some pills but I know that these won't take away my son's problems, which is the reason for me feeling like this. It feels like there's no hope.

 

~ Mel ~

[loulou]

Hi Mel,

 

Don't totally rule out going to see the doctor. I know anti-depressants won't take away your son's problems, but they may help you to cope with them better. I have been there too and have been on anti-depressants twice. Even though i didn't want to be on them (who does?), they DID help me to get through a really tough time.

 

Also, your GP may be able to help in other ways apart from giving you medication.

 

Thinking of you <'> <'> <'> and hope you're feeling ok this evening,

 

Loulou xxxxxx

[Kazzen161]

I agree - if you are feeling that bad, go and get some anti-depressants. They won't change the cause, but they will help you get through this difficult time.

 

Counselling would be brilliant if you could get it - I have had several sessions over the years - it kept me sane.

 

Karen

[Bagpuss]

Mel, please consider going to your GP. Take care <'>

[UltraMum]

Consider medication - it won't change the situation but it may help you in the short term as well as helping you to get out from under the situation and see it in a different light. <'>

[lil_me]

<'> big hugs from someone who has been there, and is now reluctantly on prozac but it is helping a lot. Counselling can also help a lot. Edited October 11, 2006 by lil_me

[lollypocket]

Oh sweetheart I know what you mean - we all have up and down days, and days when we can't go on. I think you need to see the GP though as you sound like things are really getting on top of you just now. True, the pills won't make your Son different, but they may make you able to cope a little better. I have been on and off Prozac for years. I am much better able to cope on them than off, and I still have days where I feel I can't cope

 

If you are feeling sick, exhausted and shaking it sounds more like a panic attack and I would see the GP for that too. Please go and talk to someone about this as you need to take care of yourself for your sake as well as your Son.

 

I hope you feel better soon

 

Take care

 

KW

[DaisyProudfoot]

<'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Aunty Daisy says off to the docs with you now. I was very reluctant to take anti-depressants but my doc finally persuaded me and they made a fantastic difference - they don't remove your problems they just help you see them in a fresh light. That downward spiral is a horrible thing - please don't end up there.

 

I'm not on the anti-depressants now, you don't get addicted to them you know and you will know when you feel able to cope without them again.

 

Please go pet. <'>

[pumpkinpie]

Hows it going, Been thinking about you.

Ithink a lot of us on this forum and have struggled with depression. I was on anti depressents on and off untill I got a brilliant counsellor who helped me talk through some of my probelms and helped me realise I cant do everything!"

It sounds really simple, but for me it was like a revellation,to know some things just had to slip if I couldnt manage.

 

If this journey to school is too much maybe you will have to tell school enough is enough.

Not being willing to accommodate 15 mins is beauocracy gone mad.

If you and your young un arent happy you need to let go and stop trying to be wonder woman. Sometimes the decision to stop is harder than actually doing it!!!!!!!!!! :

[oxgirl]

Thanks so much everyone for your kind words and thoughts, it really means a lot. <'>

 

I did honestly feel last week that I couldn't go on, but I am feeling a lot better today. Not much has changed, but it just seems like my ability to cope with stuff fluctuates.

 

I was on antidepressants for a couple of years, came off them about five years ago, have tried all sorts of counselling and therapies and hypnotherapy over the years. It all helped in the short-term but it always comes back to the same thing, having the ride out the bad times, I expect it's the same for all of us.

Am thinking of trying some herbal stuff maybe, but at the mo I'm feeling a bit stronger, haven't cried hardly at all today!

 

Thanks again all for your support! <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[stressedmumto2]

Hi, glad you are feeling a little better today. I've tried the anti's but can't take them everytime I do I end up being sick and feeling worse so now I stick with the odd sleeping pill and beta-blockers.

 

Have you tried contacting s/s to ask for some respite etc.

 

Are there any support groups in your area or a good friend you can talk to?

 

Hope you sleep well tonight because that's very important and if you're not sleeping to well it will make you feel alot worse. Also could you be anaemic, legs shaking like jelly, that's always my first sign when I am very anaemic and it does make you feel alot worse, go to your gp and have a check up,sending you lots of hugs and hope you sleep well tonight <'> <'> <'>

[oxgirl]

Hi, glad you are feeling a little better today. I've tried the anti's but can't take them everytime I do I end up being sick and feeling worse so now I stick with the odd sleeping pill and beta-blockers.

 

Have you tried contacting s/s to ask for some respite etc.

 

Are there any support groups in your area or a good friend you can talk to?

 

Hope you sleep well tonight because that's very important and if you're not sleeping to well it will make you feel alot worse. Also could you be anaemic, legs shaking like jelly, that's always my first sign when I am very anaemic and it does make you feel alot worse, go to your gp and have a check up,sending you lots of hugs and hope you sleep well tonight <'> <'> <'>

 

 

Thanks stressedmumto2, I am beginning to come around to the idea of going to the gp now.

 

Applied to SS for respite a while back and they said, no chance, J is too able. Sounds terribly pathetic, but I haven't actually got any friends to talk to (*hides head in shame*). Have an excellent hubby, but we don't always want to be talking about 'stuff' seeing as we both just 'know it', if you see what a mean.

 

I have lost quite a lot of weight recently, so maybe that's not doing me much good. Since start of term I've dropped over a stone, I was a size 12 and now my new size 10's are hanging off me! I'm partly happy about this, but partly concerned as well!

 

Returning the hugs <'> <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[Bagpuss]

Mel, hope you do go to GP. Your not alone in not having friends to talk too....ditto. I have a couple of close mates, but they don't live near me, so its difficult to talk things thru with them, plus their lives are busy, so I never like to burden them. Can feel like a lonely ole world sometimes. I'm always aware too, that I don't want to appear to be doom and gloom everytime we do meet up.....but then I do find myself with a "pretend" face on......saying everything is fine, fine , fine. Take care, thinking of you, and remember you do have many cyber mates <'> <'> <'>

[oxgirl]

Mel, hope you do go to GP. Your not alone in not having friends to talk too....ditto. I have a couple of close mates, but they don't live near me, so its difficult to talk things thru with them, plus their lives are busy, so I never like to burden them. Can feel like a lonely ole world sometimes. I'm always aware too, that I don't want to appear to be doom and gloom everytime we do meet up.....but then I do find myself with a "pretend" face on......saying everything is fine, fine , fine. Take care, thinking of you, and remember you do have many cyber mates <'> <'> <'>

 

 

Thanks for that Bagpuss. <'> Yes, it does feel very lonely a lot of the time and it's a lifeline to come here and 'chat' to people who understand.

I used to do the 'I'm fine' thing, but now I've totally given up with that and have slumped into having a miserable face all day, which isn't exactly very welcoming I know! Really must start practising my smile in the mirror ........ how's this?

 

Take care.

~ Mel ~

[Bagpuss]

Fabulous darling, fabulous

[TheNeil]

Coming to this a bit late but sending a <'> your way Mel

 

Got to side with everyone else on this one - get yourself to the doctors (I would say 'do it now' but it's twenty past ten at night). We all reach that point where we've got to swallow our pride and ask for help...so you do it and remember that you've got lots of cyber-mates here

 

And if you've lost a stone in weight, Dr TheNeil prescribes a good bar of chocolate (just one mind you)...then go for a run to burn off all the calories (only joking)(about the run bit, not the chocolate bit)

[oxgirl]

And if you've lost a stone in weight, Dr TheNeil prescribes a good bar of chocolate (just one mind you)...then go for a run to burn off all the calories (only joking)(about the run bit, not the chocolate bit)

 

 

Cheers TN <'> . I'm doing lots of extra running to try and raise my seretonin levels, which is probably burning off a lot of extra calories. Maybe I'll treat myself to a nice big Mars Bar later!

 

How are you getting on with your running club?

 

~ Mel ~

[loupin]

Cheers TN <'> . I'm doing lots of extra running to try and raise my seretonin levels, which is probably burning off a lot of extra calories. Maybe I'll treat myself to a nice big Mars Bar later!

 

How are you getting on with your running club?

 

~ Mel ~

 

Hi I'm new to this but have just read a couple of pages. I took St Johns Wart when I had PND after my 2nd son. It really helped me get on with the day. As it was non prescription I didn't feel the stress of taking anti depressants (although I am not against them! ) it just wasnt for me. I also felt very in control of taking them, researching them and gradually stopping them. I still have days when i feel despairing usually if my boy has a bad day or they throw another diagnosis our way! Now I make myself go to the gym as soon as the melatonin kicks in and pump out my frustrations! Hope you have a good day today!

loupin

[oxgirl]

Hi I'm new to this but have just read a couple of pages. I took St Johns Wart when I had PND after my 2nd son. It really helped me get on with the day. As it was non prescription I didn't feel the stress of taking anti depressants (although I am not against them! ) it just wasnt for me. I also felt very in control of taking them, researching them and gradually stopping them. I still have days when i feel despairing usually if my boy has a bad day or they throw another diagnosis our way! Now I make myself go to the gym as soon as the melatonin kicks in and pump out my frustrations! Hope you have a good day today!

loupin

 

 

Thanks for that Loupin, and welcome to the Forum <'> I've thought about St Johns Wart as well, maybe I'll give it a try. Exercise is a great way of relieving all the stress, isn't it, and it feels so good when we stop!!

Hope things are going well for you at the moment too. <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[TheNeil]

How are you getting on with your running club?

 

Still going, still battling the shin splints. Of course the fact that a new, extremely attractive young ladeeee has just started going has kind of perked my interest (and it does wonders for running through the pain barrier). One day I might even pluck up the courage to actually say something to her

 

I was going to suggest that you go for a run but didn't want to add any extra pressure or anything - the fact that you are though is great

 

Is there no way you can combine running with socialising? Find a running partner or something? Might kill two birds with one stone (or, if you find a chocolate partner instead, add one stone to two birds. I'll get my coat... )

 

Oh and I found that taking B vitamins picked me up so you could maybe think about taking some of them. The side effects though can be...'illuminating'

Edited October 18, 2006 by TheNeil

[oxgirl]

Is there no way you can combine running with socialising? Find a running partner or something? Might kill two birds with one stone (or, if you find a chocolate partner instead, add one stone to two birds. I'll get my coat... )

 

 

Hahahahah, that's very witty, I liked that very much!!

 

Glad you're still enjoying the running club. Of course, it's always nice to have young ladees to chase, I'm sure it will spur you on no end! Yes, I'd like a running partner, but I should imagine it's quite tricky finding someone whose pace is just right. I'm still far too slow to join my local club though!

 

Think I'll just go and munch on some grapes and pine nuts.

 

~ Mel ~

[TheNeil]

Glad you're still enjoying the running club. Of course, it's always nice to have young ladees to chase, I'm sure it will spur you on no end! Yes, I'd like a running partner, but I should imagine it's quite tricky finding someone whose pace is just right. I'm still far too slow to join my local club though!

 

Having been there and done that myself, I'd go along anyway (oh for the gift of hindsight). The club I go to has runners of all abilities from the ultra-fast to the 'practically walking' (I'm middling BTW) so there's bound to be someone who runs at the same pace you do and, depending on the setup, they'll probably go off in little groups each at different distances, speeds etc. I know that I worried about being pitifully slow and pathetic (I still do)(and, going by last night, I generally am - thank God for sprint finishes and the fact that I can beat everyone in my group at that) but I asked when I first went, explained what sort of times I was doing and the guy I spoke to reckoned I'd be Ok in one particular group (maybe you could contact them beforehand and just ask - all it takes is an email/phone call etc.)

 

It might take some 'experimenting' to find the ideal running group/partner but if they're going too fast, try a slower group the next time, and if they're going too slow, try a quicker one - you'll soon find a 'comfort zone' and there'll be a bunch of people doing exactly the same thing. I know it's easy for me to say, but do it Mel - sometimes the only way to get yourself out of a hole is to climb out yourself

 

And, just for the rceord, it's not just young ladeez in general (I'm not a perv) it's just one particular young ladee (gazes out of window in dreamy kind of way with faraway look in eyes) <sigh>