stressedmumto2 Report post Posted August 19, 2007 I feel so sick reading this thinking it could happen to any one of us. My thoughts are with you OCG and your bean too and I really hope this is sorted out and they allow bean to stay with you and put in place support. I think they are waiting for you to crumble but you are doing brilliantly and just remember that. Sending loads of pv's your way <'> <'> and I am so sorry you are going through this. Take care OCG and try and stay strong <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted August 19, 2007 paula im so sorry <'> <'> its shocking and disgusting Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted August 19, 2007 paula im so sorry <'> <'> its shocking and disgusting Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted August 19, 2007 paula im so sorry <'> <'> its shocking and disgusting Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted August 19, 2007 Words fail me OCG <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ellisisamazing Report post Posted August 19, 2007 OCG <'> Thinking of you, and really praying and hoping that this awful situation is put right...and that you and Bean remain together. Lisa xx <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wishingwell Report post Posted August 20, 2007 <'> <'> God Bless! Words fail me after reading your tread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted August 20, 2007 I've only just seen this thread, Paula, don't know how it's passed me by. I can't imagine what you're going through or how you're coping. Thinking of you and hoping for the right outcome for both of you. Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jomica Report post Posted August 20, 2007 <'> OCG & Con <'> I have no words, but plenty of tears reading about your terrible situation. I'm praying for both of you, OCG. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
madme Report post Posted August 20, 2007 So sorry that you are going through this. What does his treating consultant think about their plan to take him into a secure unit and drug him? THis sounds like child abuse to me. I hope that when you are strong enough and legally able to do so you speak to the press. My prayers are with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pumpkinpie Report post Posted August 20, 2007 What does your sol have to say about this? Surely he can get an injunction of some sort? What does the consultant say/ I t really does begger belief that rather than support him they would rahter drug him. What kind of secure unit, is it for children adults, offenders? How can they ensure his safty? Words fail me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
taggingalong Report post Posted August 20, 2007 dont know what to say to you. i will just echo what everyone else has said. so sorry. hope everything turns out ok for you and your son. i will pray for you. keep the chin up we are all behind you . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
florrie Report post Posted August 20, 2007 (edited) I've only just seen this as I don't come on here very often now. I feel physically sick reading this and I so much want to help you and I don't know how Please try and stay strong, because they will try and use that against you too, This is child abuse, you need to demonstrate that they are doing severe mental harm to your child, but they twist it and lie I know I've been through it but nothing like as bad as this keep a record of all contacts with people and what they say because they will deny it, can you tape the conversation with the doctor, I know it is not formally allowed in court but it is something you may be able to use in your defense at some point with newspapers and you can take action against him. Is it not possible to get away from the situation you are in by moving? You are allowed to home educate it is perfectly legal, contact education otherwise. I know loads of people who home educate I really cannot understand why there is no one who can help this situation is this the state of how things have become in this country. I'm so sorry Edited August 20, 2007 by florrie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
onlycrazygal Report post Posted August 20, 2007 i am so extremely grateful to you all for replying to me.... <'> .....i want you to know its so very appreciated. The specialist that diagnosed my son knew he was outnumbered by the camhs doctors (who werent qualified in asd s , therefore taking the psychiatric route) in addition to this there was opposition from those that had , shall we say , their own agendas, eg, social services and lea.... Although we do have a very clear and in depth report, from an independant ed psyche that fully supports the specialists views, in that, my sons test scores, display empirical evidence of a very typical aspergers profile. There is no way i could have coached him into failing or passing these tests. Also in addition his home tutor worked with special needs children and stated on several occasions he was a typical aspie, that she has had to train him to slow down as his mind is racing. That he has an urgent need for speech and language assessments and occupational therapy assessments, she was shocked when i told her he had been denied any assessment for over 2 yrs... He has a reading age of 15 yet doesnt understand what he reads. Also segmatic /pragmatic language difficulties. Has a natural tendancy to write from right to left instead of left to right.Feels he has processing difficulties in that he can follow simple instruction but anything more and he is lost.She told me school must of been a terribly confusing scary place for my son,which would explain why he has had attendance problems from an early age.... Despite all this it was decided the diagnosis was at fault, they had the specialist agree with there flawed view that it must be me unconsciously projecting my anxiety onto my son. Hell bent on labeling him etc etc .... My son has told four professionals involved with the case exactly what is wrong yet he is ignored. Whilst he is in my care he will recieve no help, as i said before as soon as he complies with there foster care plans he will recieve all assessments in the 3rd month in fostercare then being integrated back into mainstream. They view our relationship as unhealthily close and say the sooner we are separated the better it will be for him. i will be allowed 2hrs x 3 weekly visits under supervised contact, the specialist that diagnosed him is the doctor that recommended gradual integration into fosterfamily but failing that (in other words if my son refuses to leave me) then forced removal and secure unit with high doses of tranquilisers are recommended. IF THAT ISNT ABUSE I DONT KNOW WHAT IS...... It is very clear to me that evidence is being conveniently ignored where it suits, and the court experts cannot be challenged as i was told, it will do you no good trying to criticise them as they are the judges golden boys...... So at what point then, did i ever stand a chance ??? i have tried to persuade my son to comply, but how the hell am i ment to change his mind now, after he s seen the police and sw s fill my home as if we were criminals......set up to fail.... will keep you posted.... much love, ocg Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pets74 Report post Posted August 20, 2007 i don't know what to say, but i am praying and hoping that things turn out right for your family. big hugs and sorry i don't know what else to say. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrs fussy Report post Posted August 20, 2007 in addition to this there was opposition from those that had , shall we say , their own agendas, eg, social services and lea.... They view our relationship as unhealthily close and say the sooner we are separated the better it will be for him. i will be allowed 2hrs x 3 weekly visits under supervised contact, the specialist that diagnosed him is the doctor that recommended gradual integration into fosterfamily but failing that (in other words if my son refuses to leave me) then forced removal and secure unit with high doses of tranquilisers are recommended. HI crazygirl, i fully agree i think this is where the problems start other people having there own agends, i mean who are we just there parents arnt we what do we know. How the hell can a mother son relationship be unhealthly close, he is your son for gods sake i would be worried if you wernt close!, to seperate you is utterly appaling this just gets worse i really wish i could activly help you in some way, again i dont have the words just be strong and keep diong what you know is rigth and again im thinking of you Mrs F x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted August 20, 2007 OCG, Thinking of you and your son. Stay strong.... <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
