what would you say to someone who..

[i don't know]

What would you say to someone who...

 

feels that, and has also been told that

 

they have no social skills,

doesn't talk,

does not have a personality

and is boring to be with.

 

has no friends or social life

 

wants to have friends, but cant because of the way they are.

[littlenemo]

"Welcome to the group!" <'>

 

nemo

[nellie]

Welcome to our forum, <'>

 

I'm pleased you could join us.

 

 

Nellie xx

[lil_me]

<'> Welcome to the forum, and they are no reasons not to have friends, everyone has a personality. Edited October 30, 2005 by lil_me

[Viper]

Welcome, you want friends, well you've come to the right place, we are all friends here. No need to talk as long as you can type. And let us be the judge of you personality or how interesting you are. I bet you can give us as much as we give you if not more.

 

You are amoung friends relax and join in, if you want. <'> <'>

 

Viper.

[barefoot wend]

I would say there are lots of friends here.

 

Welcome.

 

Barefoot

[elaine1]

hello! lol

[Guest flutter]

welcome

this is a great place

<'>

[baddad]

I'd say that person hadn't yet connected with the right people, and that the people that person had connected with should maybe heed that very old piece of advice -"If you've got nothing good to say, say nothing"...

welcome

BD

[Tez]

I'd say welcome to the forum and I'm delighted that you've chosen us to be your friends. I hope that you find this a comfortable place to be yourself. <'>

[call me jaded]

Welcome!

 

[lisann]

Welcome to a great forum where you will have friends forever

 

lisa x

[annie]

Welcome <'>

 

I hope you enjoy yourself here. We're here for you whenever you feel comfortable enough to join in.

 

Annie

X

[smiley]

Hello and Welcome <'>

[i don't know]

thank you

 

this has really cheered me up

 

thank you everyone for being so welcoming

[hev]

just saw your post,you are amongst people who understand here,welcome to the forum love hev

[Clarkie]

I would say "welcome" too.

 

You have found people here who will listen to you.

 

When you feel you can trust us not to judge you in any way, then feel free to join in.

 

Someone's always around.

 

Clarkie

[ceecee]

Hi

Welcome.Just remember that you are you and have many good qualities.Be proud of who you are and if you were any different you wouldn't be you.You will find this a friendly website and you can post and chat as little or often as you need to.

[shintyboy]

Welcome,I've not been here too long myself.You sound like you need a friend.You'll find that there are many friends here,whether you post,yourself or like me you log on most nights to find out what's been said.It is also a great place for info,as i needed when i first discovered AS.Hope you hang around and don't be frightened to ask for help or info,all the best.

[i don't know]

thanx guys

 

ceecee - at this moment in time i wish i wasn't me. i don't like being me.

[Zemanski]

I think you need a few of these

 

<'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Zemanski

[barefoot wend]

We like you being you - who else would you be?

 

Think I'd be Julia Roberts.

[littlenemo]

i don't like being me.

You're not the only one, unfortunately. I forget the last time i was invited to anything (even the pub ), but i know it wasn't this century.

 

About 6 months ago i came across this site and it's been a great help. When i arrived i called myself the thread-stopper, because my posts on other forums tended to end the thread or invoke a stream of abuse i couldn't handle (and don't think i deserved). Since being here i've made over 200 posts, mostly in the longest-running thread on the site. No cutting off or nasty replies, just understanding and sympathy (a few too many hugs for my liking, but at least they're virtual, and always well meant). Oh yes, and Baddad's appaling puns!

In January I'm going to London for a get-together of old college friends. First time in over 10 years (always chickened out before). And it's mostly krism's fault .

 

This has ended up as a rather cheesy ad for krism, but the point i was trying to make was that in a world where humans are defined as 'social animals', asocial (non-social rather than anti-social) types are made to feel somehow less than human. You won't have to look far on this site to find a rant about such trollish ignorance. And there are a lot of folks here who have AS kids and want to understand them better: any insights will be well received.

 

Just beware of the Batcave

 

nemo

Edited October 30, 2005 by littlenemo

[i don't know]

thank you

 

barefoot wend

 

i am not sure who i would like to be, as long as its not me.

 

would like to be someone who could be normal and be able to socialize and have friends.

[lynyona]

hi and welcome to the forum nice to meet you. lynn

[Malika]

Hi i don't know.

 

May be you have a different personnality and not no personnality, in any case you are welcome here. As for the people who think that you are boring may be they did not try hard enough to find out, they may be so shallow that they cannot even open their mind to somebody who is not a reflection of their ownself.

 

A complete lack of intellect and this is ssssoooo boring feeling traped in a selfcentred cultural sameness made me leave a very good job years ago in my own country (France) I just couldn't cope with it all: the jokes the eating and drinking habit the I have to dress a certain way and see certain movies or certain plays and to eat in certain restaurant and talk to certain people if not how could I possibly fit in , since then I have met other people other cultures and live in different countries and never regretted it.

Strangly enough most of my family members never approved of it because for them (so patriotic especialy Mum) a good life is with your people in your country. Mum is the one as well who completly denies that my son has ASD!!???

 

In this site we would like to find out about you being you not trying to be anybody else, not very social and so what, since when any society has been made of all the same people, here everybody is WELCOME. <'>

 

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME......... <'>

 

Malika.

[bid]

You sound very down, I-D-K, <'>

 

Many of us here find it easier to communicate in writing rather than face-to-face.

 

Take your time to browse around the forum, and you'll find that we pride ourselves on being respectful and tolerant to each other, even when we disagree!

 

Welcome <'>

 

Bid

[CarerQuie]

I'd say 'welcome'.xx

[smallworld]

So would I !!

Welcome, this is the friendliest forum I've found, and has a good mix of parents of asd/as children and asd/as adults.

You can just be yourself, post or just lurk ( I think we all have phases of this !)

 

wac

[KarenT]

Hi there! Great place you've found here. Hope it doesn't take you long to settle in - most people are very relaxed here and you can come and go as you please. Welcome aboard!

 

Karen

x

[MumTee]

I'd say <'> Welcome <'> .....

 

.....and I'd say you sound interesting! I am always heaving a sigh inside whenever I go to a 'get together' because 98 per cent of what most people come out with at social gatherings (especially family ones) is utter tedium! (Me included!) It's not that I think I know better or anything, I just cant 'connect' to conversations about the price of houses, or what colour wedding dress Jordan has, etc, etc. If someone asks my opinion I find it impossible not to tell the truth....this means I always end up standing by myself eventually!!! so you sound just my cup of tea

[Jadensmum]

<'> Welcome to the forum <'>

 

 

Denisex

[mossgrove]

Welcome!

 

Like many of the people here, I find it much easier to socialise in writing than in real life, there are plenty of people here who understand exactly where you are coming from.

 

Simon

[i don't know]

thank you all

 

[supersec]

I would say ....

 

a BIG WELCOME and Hello

 

<'> <'>

 

You have found us!

 

Congratulations and welcome to the best forum in the world

 

xx

 

Caroline

[ceecee]

I dont know.

I bet you are great company with a good sense of humour different and not boring very clever and with a lot to give.I bet you would make a loyal friend and I bet you are a good listener.you have a lot to give and if people don't like you it's because they don't understand you and it is them that is missing out for not enjoying your differences.

 

I didnt like myself when I first realised i have as now as my husband says if I was any different I wouldn't be me.I know whilst I have difficulties in certain areas I have a lot to give and I know that my mum, my sister, husband and two children love me for who I am.Think of your positive points not your negative...I hope I am explaining myself properly.Take care thinking of you.

Edited December 3, 2005 by ceecee