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New school - finally

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Carol   

Carol
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Hi all

 

not posted for ages - I had just felt like I was stuck in a tub of treacle everything was moving so slowly :fight: - but got the official news now & my lad has been accepted for a fabulous residential special school & he is starting on Wednesday.

 

This is going to be a brilliant opportunity for him and he is very positive about it , and I was getting really worried as he is 14 now and I was beginning to despair that we would never get him the education he needs - & this place just seems fantastic :dance::party:

 

We have also got funding for some sessions from the Scottish Autistic Society and they are giving us therapy sessions to help with specific problems and other problem areas such as communication skills (& including his 2 brothers in this too). so things are just brilliant.

 

Just want to say that although I haven't posted recently I have been lurking :ph34r: and the support on this forum is just the best. :wub:

 

Carol

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Carol
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Thanks very much everyone - yes as I am sure you can all imagine it has taken a lot to get to this outcome - but oh so worth it.

 

lovely to get all the positive thoughts from you all :D

 

tell the truth I still feel a bit shellshocked - I have been holding my breath for so long it is kinda difficult to let it go know if you know what I mean.

 

Carol

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Just a quick update to say that today has gone really well, Andrew was very calm and was speaking & acknowledging everyone when we took him in, & changed into his school uniform with no problems - he said his only concern was how it would feel on him - & it is not scratchy at all :)

 

I even got a telephone call tonight & yes it was just yes & no's - but he stayed on for a while.

 

trying not to be too optimistic - especially after what we have been through in recent years - he even managed to go to his first class this afternoon and he said that he has had a good day.

 

Just wanted to say how proud I am of him - after his previous school experience I would totally understood if he was completely hostile but it shows his strength that he is managing ok. :wub:

 

( missing him like mad already though) but consoled by the fact that he finally has access to all the opportunities that have been sadly lacking for so long.

 

thanks for all the support

 

Carol

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Jill   

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That's brilliant news Carole. :thumbs:

 

It must be soooo hard to let go (I'm dreading it already and The Boy is only 4!) but you can rest well knowing that you have done the best for your son.

 

Sending you >:D<<'> and best wishes.

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jessie   

jessie
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hi carol

just wondering where this school is. Our AS Adhd son really isn't coping with school and they are definately not coping with him. We also live in in scotland and now feel we have to explore other possibilities. Hs problems seem to be getting worse with age and is now 13. He was excluded last year and I don't think it will be long before he is excluded again. HE WAS taken out of school on a part time basis over the last few months and has not llong returned but is having great difficulty settling down and displaying a lot of hostility towards the school and us.

 

feeling very worried about his future

 

jessie

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What wonderful l news. Congarts for doing so well. You have obviously fought hard and Im sure your son will do well. Im sure its hard not to see him but if its what he wants and is in his best interest then you MUST not let yourself doubt your decision. We too are fighting for a residential placement at a specialist independent school.Son has adhd aspergers and dyspraxia and a spld in maths. He has a high iq as was testd by various ed psch reports a few years ago. Hate the secondary transfer stage. Has been rejected by some of the local secondary schools which although helpful has upset me. Hey im easlily upset these days ! Given his Iq and abilities I dont want him in local lea special schools as unfortunately they are v low attaining and also lots of ebd as far as I can see. So far Lea have only approached mainstream. With iq of 136 should be able to so exams but I feel awful when we gt lewtters saying that localschools wont accept. If we dont suceed we will move/home educate

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Carol
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Jessie, I know how desperate you are feeling - we were the exact same - so worried for his future, massive impact on the entire family and despairing that he would ever get an education - we feel like we have been thrown a lifeline.

 

This school has to have a social work & education referral - they are paying half the costs each, so that took a lot of doing - you know how they like to hold onto the purse strings :lol: - we were very fortunate in that we had a wonderful ed psych who gave us a lot of support.

 

I have pm'd you the name of the school ( not allowed to mention it online).

 

madme - we feel that our lads intelligence has never had a chance to develop and this will finally give him a good shot at it, years ago his IQ was tested & came out high & he is gifted in maths, so happy that he is getting a chance to see how far he can get ( once they have identified all the gaps in his education where he spent under desks or outside the heads office :lol:

 

I have my lad back home now - the first 3 days have been a total success and bracing ourselves for a backlash - it never happened, he is very chatty, joking & laughing and talking positively about going back next week :D

 

thanks very much for all the kind words, feel good about posting something positive for a change :lol:

 

Carol

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jessie   

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thanks carol

firstly, sorry for asking you the name of the school. After I had done so I realised that it was inappropriate(sp). I'd just read your email and after a week of meetings, phonecalls and letters home I did feel pretty desparate. We had another meeting this morning as my son had to agree to the new reward system which had been put in without warning. He reacted pretty badly to this by mouthing off etc.......I really don't know how much longer the school will be able to cope with him. We ended up having to take him home as he couldn't agrre to their new regime I don't think what they where asking was at all unreasonable but it was a pity that they introduced it in the manner that they did with. The local hospital is involved and even have a special unit for supporting children with as and adhd ( may have mentioned this already) and they have been excellent but I'm not too sure how things are being followed up in school. :(

 

Thanks for your support and well done on getting your son into an educational establishment which can meet his needs. I have only just realised that I may have to fight to get something similar for my son. There are no suitable schools where I live which can offer the an education with staff which have been trained to work with as adhd children.

 

sorry for going on. not looking forward to monday

jessie

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