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He might be so bright that psychotherapy works (the "real" one, not the versions for autistics which you mentioned): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Person-centered_therapy or http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychoanalysis

It might be a quote from some movie. Otherwise, I don't see how it can go together with a diagnosis of autism: it's a statement on a meta level, and I would be unable to say and to mean it, due to lack of theory of mind, and I'm 42 with a professional doctorate. For an autistic child to learn the rules you have to state them explicitly, and over and over again, and every time they get challenged, in order not to create a case of precedence of the rules not being applied. What doesn't work at all is to discuss something, what might work is to count him down (or up), but without naming any consequences. And what Lyndalou wrote in her first post.

About the (very) diverging expectations re. communication between AS- and Non-AS-people: Ashley Stanford, Asperger Syndrome and Long-term Relationships Christopher Slater, Gisela Slater-Walker: An Asperger Marriage

Welcome to the forum. My special interest is books, so: Charlotte Moore, George and Sam. I hope you do find the time to read ...

I second that.

What might help you get insight into "the things that are going on around" you: "Games people play", by Eric Berne, even if it's from 1982.

Further reading: http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2007/aug/07/health.medicineandhealth

Even if it sounds weird, I sometimes take my 9-year-old in the car for distances of about half a mile, because I have the feeling that he'll "misbehave", e.g. in the GP's waiting room. The ride in the car seems to calm him down somewhat.

I think you can learn the rules of social lies, if you start young enough, and get the rules explained explicitly when necessary.

It may take some time to come to terms with that knowledge. I know that I needed about 1 year - still, I was able to keep my job. I think you'll need some patience to help her through her "grieving" phase.

A bit ambivalent, as he did not ... I found it complicated enough to read, at (then) 37 or so.

You might give him Luke Jackson: Freaks, Geeks, ...

You might have a look into these links: http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/index.php/support-groups-464/australian-assocations http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/index.php/support-groups-464/australian-support-groups

The reaction seems quite normal, for his stressful situation. Maybe he should spend more time where his little brother is not present (difficult to organize, but hopefully it helps).

"To tell the truth is cheeky" - that's something I learned as a child. It seems to be a specific problem for autistics: not to know when to lie (politely).

Thanks. I won't be able to attend, but I did like her book "Aspergirls".

Problems with the concept of "self" might arise from weak central coherence (in the brain, that is). I often have problems with stating my own opinion boldly - while everyone else seems to have no inhibitions to talk the biggest nonsense.

Similar problems here, it takes a lot of time. What I think helped to understand the mechanisms was Kate Fox: Watching the English. Even though I'm not.

Yes. Works for me. I think so.

For me, it took a bit over one year.

Funny thing is, as I had a look into autism, I found lots of traits in my father, and in his youngst uncle (born in 1911). The three of us have professional doctorates, btw. Looking back, I think that my family must have developped some sort of autism-compatible way of raising children: "unwritten" rules were spelled out, e.g.

I used to hear the TV's buzz. Either that noise has gone now, with flatscreen TVs, or I just don't hear those high pitches any more.

Hello, K257. I got my dx only after my son got his (HFA) at age 3. In 2007. Up until then it was all guesswork.

Welcome here. There's "Woman from another planet" which I found very informative. Btw "borderline Aspergers" might lead to confusion whether you write about borderline (BPD) or even bipolar (manic-depressive) which it seems to be a "code"word for.

The positive thing I read in your posts is that your mother seems to support you. Wish you the best!