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Thanks Barefoot. Nellie xx

Hi Anita, Sorry I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been suggested. Seeing the GP seems to be a good step but a lot will depend on the GP. You might find some of the books/websites on this previous topic helpful. AS / Relationships and Marriage, Information on family relationships. http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=727 Nellie xx

Hi Neil, I think I know where you're coming from. My hubbie and my youngest son both have AS, both hate any kind of socialising that isn't on their terms. My youngest son (26 next month) had a complete breakdown 5 years ago and hasn't worked since. He made a decision a few years ago to only do what he's capable of, he doesn't do pubs, doesn't do chit chat, doesn't celebrate with his football team when they win, doesn't socialise with visitors. He will play snooker, football, watch dvd's with friends, go to the occasional gig, play games with visitors, go for walks (prefers you not to chit chat though). He made many 'friends' at school and still sees quite a few of them, those friends are predictable, they know each other well. He talks the talk and walks the walk when he has to but prefers not to. There has to be a purpose to any socialising. I'm hoping he'll venture into the work place soon, he's stuck in a rut. I'm about to give him a gentle nudge with my size 3's. My husband has friends that have a common bond, they can talk to the cows come home if it's about something that interests them but he doesn't like socialising, chit chat or unpredicatable situations. Hope this helps in some way. Nellie <'> <'>

Curra, I'm wondering if your LEA have still to finalise the statement. Have they written to say that the statement is finalised and stated you have the right of appeal at tribunal? (Sorry if I've missed this bit). If it's been finalised it should have been issued. Once the statement is issued the school must provide the provision on the statement. Your LEA have a binding duty to 'arrange' that the special educational provision set out in the statement (part 3) is made. If the school refuse to put the provision in place write to the LEA and tell them they are in breach of their legal duty. If the school fail to acknowledge your child's special educational needs as set down in part 2 of the statement have a word with your SEN officer. Who pays for the provision is not your problem, it must be provided. Good luck Nellie xx

Two hours, wow!! Didn't she do well and well done hubbie. Maybe Santa could get him an emergency blanket. Nellie <'> <'>

Well done L! Nothing ventured nothing gained. Fingers crossed that she has a successful night. Try not to worry Kathryn, saying that, I would be pacing the floor. Nellie <'>

Welcome to the forum Gerrard, Great place, I'm sure you will find it useful. Nellie xx

Hi Tally, Hope this helps. Home Education websites. http://www.education-otherwise.org/ http://www.heas.org.uk/ http://www.homeeducators.co.uk/ http://www.he-special.org.uk/ Nellie xx

Brilliant news! I was just about to say, are you sure there's not a girl involved? Nellie xx

Darky More power to your elbow!! Nellie <'>

Darky, The friend in higher places?? It wouldn't be superwoman doing her stuff again? Nellie

Hi Jenny, I agree with Oracle, getting your child signed off unfit for school will give you breathing space and mean she is not off school unofficially. Good luck! Nellie xx

FANTASTIC NEWS!! Well done something tells me you're input had something to do with it. Nellie <'>

Hi Moira, Nice to 'meet' you and a warm welcome to the forum. Nellie xx

Hev, What are you like!! Just make sure he doesn't read this forum. Hopefully he won't have to wait too long for his next test. I know you were looking forward to using his services. Nellie <'>

Karin, <'> <'> I'm really sorry to hear this, I know you have been struggling to get a diagnosis for some time. You are entitled to a second opinion. You could make an apointment with your GP and request a referral to someone qualified to give a diagnosis. If there's no one in your area he will have to refer out of area. Hang on in there. Nellie <'> <'>

Good luck Nick!! N xx

stressedmumto2, <'> <'> Nellie xx

opheila, <'> <'> I'm please you're pleased. As already stated, it's a funny old time, sometimes it hits you when you least expect it. Sounds as if you have a great paediatrician, it can make such a difference. Take care Nellie <'>

Hi loupin, <'> It sounds as if your son is managing to hold it all together at school and blowing a gasket when he comes home. It can be quite scary for your son and the family, as you say, he's quite oblivious to his part in it when he eventually calms down. The Jekyll and Hyde character is discussed at length on this topic. You will find some useful information from Rita Jordan and Tony Attwood on there, (page2) it might be worth showing this to the school and ask them if they can give him more support, ofcourse they have to understand that he's not coping and why. The passive child/pretending to be 'normal', Meeting the needs of the passive child. http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...;hl=jekyll+hyde Another useful topic The rage cycle, stratgies for AS meltdowns http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...ic=7706&hl= You have my sympathy, it's not an easy problem to deal with. Hang on in there. Nellie <'> <'>

Thanks for this Oracle. It's good to see justice done. Nellie xx

Autistic pupils 'underachieving' - BBC News Scotland http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/6100622.stm

It's always great to hear good news. Nellie xx

Much easier said than done but I would keep calm, ignore and distract. You have my sympathy. <'> Nellie xx

Bullet <'> <'> <'> I'm so pleased to hear you have a definite diagnosis. Nellie <'>