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    stamp collecting, cross stitching, playmobil, star trek, liverpool fc, computers

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  1. http://www.autscape.org/2022/registration/ http://www.autscape.org/2022/programme/ I highly recommend this autistic conference. I have been before and registration is now open until early July. Day tickets will be on sale soon (where you leave just before dinner) Presentations, interaction badges to show whether you would like others to interact with you or not, sensory room, discussion groups, entertainment evening, full board residential which is catered towards autistic sensory needs. Connecting bus avaliable from Alfreton train station on request for a small extra charge. If you are there I'm the guy with the manual wheelchair and playmobil characters feel free to wave at me on white or green badge.
  2. Sorry your post was missed. Welcome to the forum. Two books I highly recommend you try are... "People with autism behaving badly" by John Clements "Asperger syndrome and difficult moments, practical solutions for tantrum, rage and meltdown" On a personal note, my mum and I tend to be more prone to meltdown if we've had a poor night's sleep, if more changes than we can handle happen at once (unless we've made them ourselves with no consequences from others), as a way of expression physical or emotional pain, as a result of perfectionism "either everything goes 100% right or it all goes wrong", angry depression (I wish I had the hopeless crying depression but I don't). Hope these help Alfie
  3. Hi I notice your username indicates you're in Bristol? There are a few organisations there that accept self diagnosed adults. One is DiverseUK which run a range of meet up groups in Bristol. The other I'd based in Bath, Bath Autism and Neurodiversity spectrums cic. Feel free to private message me for more details.
  4. Perfectionism in autism can look like symptoms of an eating disorder (or as an updated term is used, 'disordered eating'). Unfortunately the only researcher I've come across that's studied disordered eating in autistics wasn't very open to questions or feedback on her research from autistics. In fact a couple of people (myself included) walked out of her talk in disgrace as she was so dismissive. You might want to look up "selective eating in autism" as that concentrates on textures etc in foods. But when it becomes a problem, would be when your health is adversely affected by what you're eating (and/or not eating). Only a medical professional can tell you that for sure. But there are also helplines for disordered eating if you are concerned. https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/get-information-and-support/get-help-for-myself/i-need-support-now/helplines/
  5. Depends on the diagnosis, who made it and when. Sometimes you can have an updated assessment which can then allow you to add a note to your file stating why this information is inaccurate.
  6. To add to this, any unauthorised research posted on the forum will be deleted without warning. You must have your project approved by moderators and show ethical approval to a moderator beforehand, no exceptions.
  7. If you take yourself and or your disabled adult/child to none gp medical appointments (including community dental appointments), then you can claim travel refunds via filling in and sending off (I'd do it 2 months before as it takes a while to get to the correct department) a HC5(t) form. https://www.nhsbsa.nhs.uk/nhs-low-income-scheme
  8. Your feelings regarding your experiences with your ex wife are totally understandable. I had to leave my last place because of gaslighting myself. I haven't been dating recently myself so am unable to give much advice. Be guided on what your new partner says. Ask your partner what their mother likes to talk about. Then pick 2 or 3 of her hobbies that you both have in common and go from there. My mother likes to talk about serial dramas, my latest embroidery pieces, what I've been doing that week. So I stick to those subjects. I'm currently working on starts and ends to conversations. I'm particularly hard at ending conversations.
  9. There are a few aspie dating sites out there, my mum met her fella in her 60s. They've been together for over a year now and she's suspected ASD. I know the feeling regarding ASD ruining it for you. Are there any autism support groups near you? Some organisations are running online support groups. Others eg national autistic society have resource and day centres open to a limited number of people.
  10. trekster

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    Are there any computer clubs, tech groups via meetup.com or similar that could help you find friends.
  11. I know of people who find Discord easier to use than Facebook, servers are divided into various channels to post about relevant subjects.
  12. Only that ive read and found in the research about autism and adhd."Multicoloured mayhem" by Jacqui Jackson is one book that springs to mind.
  13. If you have access to Facebook then this organisation might be able to help you. https://www.facebook.com/ICANinCornwall/ Meetings where services offered to adults with autism are discussed are held here. https://www.supportincornwall.org.uk/kb5/cornwall/directory/service.page?id=hhZ34N-n3FY&adultchannel=10-2 Welcome and sorry you haven't had anyone respond to your post until now. What support you can get depends on a number of factors. im in my early 40s and set up peer support groups in some neighbouring counties due to lack of services in our area. At one point we had 3 organisations running groups for adults with autism in 1 area, but now that's reduced to 1 due to covid which is another limiting factor even though Cornwall will be in tier 1 (at least for the first 2 weeks). It does sound like your GP doesn't understand you, ive had a few that dont understand me in the past so can empathise with your situation. https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/post-diagnosis-support/autistic-adults Unfortunately the NAS website has changed quite a bit so getting harder to find services and information on there, but the above link is a starting point for you.
  14. He may not be able to remember what he has done if it was done in an autistic meltdown which is why he's appearing to lie. He has this time come to you about the broken glass which can be encouraged. The cause of why he's throwing things or breaking stuff needs to be found and removed. Thank him for coming to you about the broken glass. Has anything in particular set this off with going into his room to escape from the world? I do agree with getting a counseller would be the best way forward especially one thats trained in helping families that have autistics that display challenging behaviour.
  15. Hi and welcome, feel free to start your own post if you like and hopefully we can help you make sense of yourself and others. no need to apologise to us for talking a lot. I can be the same, but then again im also dyslexic so summarising what i need to say is difficult for me.
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